Mom guilt is a very real thing. It toys with your emotions. It whispers horrible thoughts into your mind. It creates problems that were never there. It makes you over analyze every decision you make. It creates agony for day to day existence.
Girl, I’ve been there. Hell we’ve all been there. There are going to be times you can’t be there. Things happen. We need to work to bring money in to support our family. We need time to recover after an accident or illness. We need bonding time with our friends without having someone tugging at our pant leg. We need a night out with our husband to keep the spark alive.
Your child will love you unconditionally no matter what. Taking care of yourself in whatever way you need will not irreparably damage them. They will be okay. They will adapt. Do what you think is best for you, your family and your child. If that means being with them all the time, do it. If it means sending them to daycare so you can do what you need to do, that’s cool too. If it means leaving them with a babysitter or a relative so you can run errands in peace, that’s fine! Do what make you comfortable, and what you feel is best for your family.
Mom guilt eats us alive.
No matter what we do, no matter what situation we’re in, the grass could always be greener. Even when you reach the greener grass, there’s a diamond atop a mountain that seems unattainable.
Climb that mountain to achieve YOUR goals.
Bottle vs breast, cosleep vs crib sleeping, purée vs baby led weaning, working mom vs stay at home mom… no matter what you decide is best for you and your family, there will ALWAYS be someone with an opinion. Is this opinion always valid? No. Should you take this opinion with a grain of salt? Yes. Does this person spend hours living in your home, doing your routine and raising your child? If that’s a hard no, tell them to bug off.
Mom’s have enough things to worry about without having to deal with your “back in my day” opinion Judith. Things have changed. People are different.
You’re doing great.
If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask. Everyone needs help every now and then. There’s a reason why they say it takes a village to raise a child – mom cannot always be there. It’s tough to let go, trust me I know, but there will be times that it needs to be done. They will be okay!