Pregnancy. It’s a scary word. Maybe this was a part of your plan? Maybe this wasn’t? Maybe the timing wasn’t 100% on your side and you needed to figure things out? Pregnancy is wonderful in so many ways, but it is a life altering event. You may only think you have one option, or two options, but there are so many support services and resources out there to help guide you down whichever path is best for you, your family and your life.
“You’re pregnant! Congratulations?”
You pee on that stick, anxious, terrified yet excited at the same time. Maybe you’ve been trying for months, or maybe this is the first cycle. Maybe you didn’t plan this right away, or maybe you didn’t plan this at all. Now what?
The first thing to do is call your doctor. Your primary doctor will be able to point you in the right direction to discover your next steps. If you’re conflicted on what to do, they can help guide you to the resources that will help you make your decision. If you already know what you want to do, you’ll have the right people already lined up to talk to!
Usually at the primary appointment with your family doctor, they will do a physical and check your vitals, the general state of your body, whether your feet are swollen, look in your eyes, ears… pretty much everywhere. They do a urine sample to complete a pregnancy test, as well as to check if there are ketones, protein or blood in your urine. They will set you up with requisitions for blood work and for a dating ultrasound to see how far along you are.
The ultrasound is one of the most eyeopening experiences of your pregnancy. It’s a chance to visually see the little life that is growing inside of you. Depending on the age of the fetus, you may be able to see a sac, the heartbeat and possible beginnings of features. My children both looked like tadpoles in their dating ultrasounds.
Besides receiving the results from your blood work and ultrasound, there’s a lot more to think about in terms of announcing your pregnancy, documenting your pregnancy and beginning to hunt for the multitude of necessities your child will need (stay tuned for that article!). There’s so much to think about. Something that I found helpful was creating physical lists of the different things I needed to do, needed to buy, needed to plan. Organizing my thoughts onto paper also helped calm me down, because with pregnancy comes a whole array of new feelings and emotions. I mean, your life is going to be different forever!
Most people choose to announce their pregnancy in their second trimester. It’s all a personal preference! Some people are comfortable announcing it six weeks in, some people are comfortable announcing it at 10 weeks after a dating ultrasound, some people prefer to wait until later and every option is okay! It’s all about personal preference and what you’re comfortable with. Personally, I chose to wait until I was about eight weeks with my daughter, and this pregnancy I announced it closer to ten weeks to my family, only because I wanted to do the surprise on Christmas day.
As for social media, that is entirely your choice. I chose to do a simple photo announcement for each of my pregnancies to let my extended family and old friends know, but some people prefer not to have their future child on any social media and that is okay too. A girl I went to high school with only has photos of her daughter where her daughter’s face is hidden because she doesn’t want her face on the internet at such a young age. Some other people also chose to not announce anything at all! This is a special time for you, and your family and if you feel like keeping that private then all the power to you!
I spent a lot of time on Pinterest in the first few months of each pregnancy. I was looking for ideas on how to announce my pregnancy (both in person to my family and social media), ideas on announcing the gender, ideas for names, ideas for nurseries… you name it Pinterest has links for it. Follow my Pinterest for some links and idea’s that I have found in the past.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Join support groups like Baby Center which will link you with all their resources, plus forums that house women all facing pregnancy and all the joys that come with it. Use them as tools of support and it’s all anonymous! No fear of being judged because you don’t need to divulge any personal information.
Pregnancy is a scary journey, but if you prepare yourself and seek out support, resources and companionship, it’s not nearly as daunting as some make it out to be. Enjoy every moment because those nine months go by awfully fast.